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Beyond Flight, Fight, Freeze

Kelly McGonigal is a health psychologist and lecturer at Stanford University. She spent years telling people that stress was bad for them; that stress would increase their risk of experiencing all sorts of minor and major...

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What Are Your Family’s Values?

What Are Your Family’s Values?

Values Values are what is important to you; the guideposts by which you’ll make decisions. They are qualities that reflect who you want to be in the world. When we make decisions that take into account our values, we are more congruent and will feel more connected to...

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Meal Times Matter

Meal Times Matter

Family meal times are an opportunity for families to come together, check in with each other, share information on how the day is going, and generally just touch base in our fast-paced lives. Children learn societal values and cultural norms around food and eating;...

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Parent Wellbeing

Parent Wellbeing

Wellbeing. What does it mean? And how does your wellbeing affect you and your family? Wellbeing is a balance between your resources and your challenges. There are psychological, social and physical dimensions on both sides. It is not static; our wellbeing changes. Our...

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Elli Uses Her Mindfulness to Self-Regulate.

Figuring out what practices work for you and your family - whether they be mindfulness, kindness, compassion, gratitude or any other type of practice - is a process. My daughter, when she was four, used to tell me quite emphatically, "I don't want to take deep...

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The Science of Kindness

The Science of Kindness

Contrary to the "every person for themselves" belief, humans have survived precisely because of our social behaviour. Our ancestors' ability to work together - to hunt, to look after our young ones - ensured their survival. Having strong prosocial skills meant that...

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Happy Family Day

Happy Family Day

This year in BC, Valentine’s Day and Family Day are both in the same week. In the lead up to this week, I’ve found myself pondering a few questions: What traditions do I want to establish (if any) for my family around Valentines Day and/or Family Day? What memories do...

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How Painful Events Foster Compassion and Connection

    Spirit of the West is one of my favourite bands. I danced my heart out to them in my university years both at the Pit Pub at UBC and live at various venues around Vancouver; when we visited Italy when my daughter was almost 4, she and I had "When Venice...

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Setting a New Year’s Intention

Setting a New Year’s Intention

Even though I haven’t set a New Year’s Resolution for many years, as January 1st draws nearer I inevitably ask myself, “Am I going to set a resolution this year?” The answer, after some thought, is always, “No” as I’ve never been very successful in maintaining them....

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Resources

Below are some websites, resource books for parents, children’s books, and other resources that I have used and recommend.

 

Websites

http://heartmindonline.org

Heart-Mind Online is a website developed by the Dalai Lama Centre for Peace and Education offering social and emotional learning resources for parents and professionals. Has activities that you can do with your family or students.

http://www.kidsinthehouse.com

Kids In the House is a site for parents and caregivers with over 9000 videos from over 450 experts including doctors, psychologists, therapists, authors, parents, and caregivers, offering tips and advice on raising children. Most videos are about 2 minutes long. Covers ages birth to post high school.

http://www.casel.org

This is the website of the Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning which was founded by Daniel Goldman, Linda Lanetiri and in 1990. CASEL is the leading authority on Social and Emotional Learning (SEL). According to CASEL, “Social and emotional learning (SEL) enhances students’ capacity to integrate skills, attitudes, and behaviors to deal effectively and ethically with daily tasks and challenges.” The SEL framework that CASEL uses has five competencies: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills, and responsible decision-making.

http://self-compassion.org

This is Dr. Kristin Neff’s website. Dr. Neff is one of the leading experts on self-compassion. There are guided meditations that you can download as well as self-compassion exercises on her site.

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu

Greater Good is the online magazine of The Greater Good Science Center (GGSC) which is based at the University of California, Berkeley, Bringing together research and practice, GGSC studies the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teaches skills to encourage and thriving and resilient society.

http://mindfulnessforteens.com

Dr. Dzung Vo, the author of The Mindful Teen: Powerful Skills to Help You Handle Stress One Moment at a Time (New Harbinger, 2015), offers an introduction to mindfulness that is youth-friendly. Dr. Vo is also a pediatrician specializing in adolescent medicine at British Columbia Children’s Hospital, and clinical assistant professor at the University of British Columbia Faculty of Medicine, Vancouver, Canada.

Books for Parents

Brainstorm, Dr. Dan Siegel

Permission to Feel, Dr. Marc Brackett

Self-Compassion, Dr. Kirstin Neff

The Gift of Failure, Jessica Lahey

The Mindful Child, Susan Kaiser Greenland

The Mindful Teen: Powerful Skills to Help You Handle Stress One Moment at a Time, Dr. Dzung Vo

The Whole Brain Child, Dr. Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson

Books for Children and Youth

Some of these books are on practices you can do with children and youth while others are fiction books that provide opportunities to discuss emotions, perspective-taking, identity and other social and emotional skills.

A Boy and A Bear, Lori Lite

A Fish in a Tree, Lynda Mullaly Hunt 

Guts, Raina Telgemeier

Mindful Games, Susan Kaiser Greenland

Mindful Monkey, Happy Panda by Lauren Alderfer

Peaceful Piggy Meditation, Kerry MacLean

Sitting Still Like a Frog; Mindfulness Exercises for Kids (and Their Parents), Eline Snel

Smile, Raina Telgemeier

The Mindful Teen: Powerful Skills to Help You Handle Stress One Moment at a Time, Dr. Dzung Vo

The Way I Feel, Janan Cain

Walter Was Worried, Laura Vacarro Seeger

Wonder, R. J. Palacio

Other resources

http://sarbglaze.com

Sarb takes amazing and authentic family photos. Her mission is “to help you preserve the way you love, the way you laugh, and capture the best version of you today so that the images we create together will mark this incredible stage in your life forever.” Sarb also donates 5% of your session purchase to Medecins Sans Frontieres/Doctors without Borders (MSF).

Get the Becoming a Truly Compassionate Parent Workbook

Download your free guide and workbook to learn what it means to be a truly compassionate parent. Use the workbook prompts and reflection questions to identify how you can apply this to your life and unique circumstances.

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